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Life Bridge Coaching, Baltimore, Maryland, and Nationwide Marriage Counseling and Relationship Counseling
FAQs

If you're considering couples therapy and counseling, you probably have questions:

  • Can this actually work for us?
     
  • Is it worth the time, money, and vulnerability?
     
  • Is there even a benefit to this?
On this page, I’ve answered the most common questions couples ask me before I help them

I’m John Weiman, CEO of Life Bridge Coaching, a Gottman-trained marriage and life coach with over 15 years of experience helping couples rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy. I've helped over 4000 couples, am nationally ranked for my work, and have even been given the title #1 Best Relationship Coach in America by the National Life Coaching Institute on Thumbtack!

1. Does marriage/relationship counseling REALLY work?

General Marriage Counseling Questions
 

Counseling isn’t magic, but when both partners are willing to show up honestly and do the work, it's incredibly effective.

I’ve seen couples move from “we’re basically roommates and we’re done” to “we feel like we're in the honeymoon phase again” when they commit to the process.

What counseling really does is give you:
 

  • A safe, structured place to talk about deep-rooted issues

 

  • A neutral guide who understands relationships and isn’t taking sides

 

  • Concrete tools to communicate, repair after conflict, and rebuild trust and communication


If both of you lean in, it’s very common to feel a significant shift in how you relate to each other.

2. How do I know if we actually need Marriage Counseling/Relationship Counseling?

Here are some of the top reasons people need marriage counseling:
 

  • You’re growing apart instead of together
     

  • You feel more like roommates or business partners than a couple
     

  • You’re having the same fights over and over with no resolution
     

  • There’s little or no emotional or physical intimacy (learn to fix this)
     

  • There’s been infidelity, secrecy, or broken trust
     

  • One or both of you feel unseen, unheard, or alone in the relationship


The earlier you catch these, the faster you can restore your marriage to what it should be!

3. Is going to couples counseling a sign we’re failing?

No, going to Couples therapy and Marriage counseling is a sign that you're trying to make things work out better!

Many couples hold the belief that they aren't "broken enough" to need counseling. 

The reality is, Counseling isn't just designed to repair broken relationships; it's designed to make working ones better, too!

And most long-term relationships get to the point where they need outside help. There's never shame in asking for help.

Common Relationship Questions
 

1. Can my marriage recover from infidelity/cheating?

Yes, absolutely, but it's difficult...
 

When asked, “What would you do if your partner cheated?” 95% of people say done, but after counseling, 87% of people with marriage infidelity stay together. 

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Figuring out exactly what happened and why the betrayal occurred is key to fixing the relationship. While your relationship may never go back to what it was, rebuilding trust through consistent action is essential.

2. My partner and I feel emotionally distant, what can help?

When you feel emotionally distant, the most powerful place to start is a small, daily ritual of connection. Instead of trying to fix everything overnight, commit to 10–15 minutes a day where you put phones away and really check in with each other about how you’re feeling, not just what you’re doing. Ask questions like:

 

  • “What was the hardest part of your day?” 

 

  • “What’s one thing you’re worried about right now?”

 

Emotional intimacy comes back through consistent, safe conversations, not one big talk.

Over time, those small moments add up, and you start to feel like partners again instead of strangers.

3. My Partner and I can't stop bickering, what do we do?

If you’re arguing about everything, the goal shouldn't be to “win” more fights; it’s to understand each other better.

Some conflicts are perpetual, and so learning to fight better rather than eliminate them is the best thing you can do

A game-changing shift is to submit to understanding your partner’s side first, which doesn’t mean you agree or give in. It means you temporarily put your argument down and ask, “Can you help me understand why this matters so much to you?”

When both people feel:
 

  • Heard

  • Seen

  • Understood


​The intensity of the fight usually drops, and real solutions become possible. Most couples don’t actually have a “communication problem”; they just feel unheard.

4. What causes a sexless marriage?

If intimacy has stopped, the place to begin is an authentic and vulnerable conversation about the lack of connection, not a demand for sex. [3]

Most men require sex to want intimacy, while most of the time, women require emotional intimacy to want sex.

A lack of emotional connection between both spouses, plus roommate syndrome, causes a sexless marriage.

And one of the best ways to fix it is to figure out the root problem causing both of you to not have the same emotional connection you once did. [2] [ 

Working With John and Life Bridge Coaching

1. What is your typical process?

I like to speak separately to all parties involved before our first session, completely free of charge. Clients feel most comfortable if they're not walking in the cold!

Only after talking to both parties do I bring people in for counseling! And from there, we start your sessions, which last as long as you need to make progress. 

The best part is you can always call us in between your sessions! Once a week doesn't always cut it.

2. What education and training do you have?

In addition to my degree in Counseling Psychology and life coach certification, I am trained in the Gottman Method.

A method that has helped almost 40 million couples! My team also consists of therapists and counselors with whom I work closely to match all clients' marital and relationship needs!

3. Describe a recent project you are fond of.

I had a couple who were not connecting. 


Most of their communications involved conflict. They learned to listen to each other after a few months. At their last session, they asked me to witness their wedding. 


Moments like this inspire me in my job. 


Whatever happiness looks like, I encourage my clients to find and deserve it. I also have a couple who had infidelity in their marriage. 


Since they started coming, they have been "ALL IN." 


They learned to accept that their relationship would never be what it was before the infidelity. 


However, they told me, "After we left here, we talked for three hours like never. It felt perfect." It took about two months to reach this point.

Things To Think About Before Talking To A Relationship Coach or Marriage Counselor In America

1. What questions should we think through before choosing a Marriage Counselor/Couples Therapist?

The best advice I can give is that the client should call the counselor and converse with them before booking a session.

It's essential to feel comfortable talking to them. If you feel relaxed, hire them.
 

But ALWAYS ask yourself: Will I feel comfortable working with this professional?

2. What If My Partner Refuses To Come To Counseling?

This is unfortunately a very common problem, and most of the time the reason stems from one of these:
 

  • ​“I’m too embarrassed  to meet a therapist.”
     

  • "I want to keep our problems private."
     

  • "Our issues aren't that bad."
     

  • “I’m uncomfortable talking feelings.” [1]
     

Submit to understanding, and have a heart-to-heart talk with your spouse. One of the best things you can do is have them speak with the counselor too!​

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